Beirut's Anti-Gay Gay Bar
A few weeks ago on a Saturday evening, a gay man and his boyfriend, who could easily be defined as "flaming", were denied entrance to Wolf because of the latter's appearance.
Worse yet, when questioned about its policy, the owner freely admitted having instucted the bouncer to turn away any "overtly feminine" clientele, presumably to safeguard the desired "bear" ambiance of the bar. The bar's website used to be www.beirutbear.com, but is now www.wolfbeirut.com.
I will no longer frequent Wolf. It's reprehensible for some gay men to reject others based on vague notions of masculinity. As gay men, we are all rejected by the larger society, and further segregation serves no positive purpose.
I understand that in order to be a bear bar, Wolf wants to entice burly, bulky, hairy, (and often bald) guys to its dimly-lit, overly-decorated den. Furthermore, the owner may have foolishly thought that its desired clientele would be diswayed by the presence of "feminine" guys. But, as I have said, this notion is foolish.
In no other country do you see bear bars enacting discriminatory laws. Sure, they might be "jeans and leather only", but they don't discriminate based on "femininity".
Nevertheless, they still manage to remain burly. Why is this? "Feminine" guys generally have no interest in being in bear bars. They much rather hang out at limp-wrist havens like X-OM. They might stop in to leather clubs once in a while, just as leather men might go see a drag show, just for a change of scenery and to see what everyone else is up to.
And that's what makes the gay community a strong community. Knowledge, acceptance, and solidarity.
Wolf, unfortunately, seems incapable of this. Shame, shame, shame.